If he forgets my birthday and remembers hers, i will be very pissed. I am having the hardest time accepting that he is not the one, whatever the "one" is. I expected a lot more from this relationship and he is unable and unwilling to give it. The disappointment is all mine, i suppose. The thing that bugs me most is wondering what he really thinks of me, "brutally and tactlessly". I do not subscribe to the notion that you shouldn't care what people think of you. We have too much to learn from our peers to be caught up in self-serving ego-centricity. On the other hand, it is incredible unfair of me to expect certain behaviors from him, and the expecting is part of my problem.